What is it most humans have in common?

There are three universal fears we as humans must be able to sit with and learn from them. According to many, and in particular my colleague Gregg Braden, these three are fear of separation and abandonment, the fear of low self worth, and the fear of surrender and trust. Take a moment and breath, notice which one is more present for you?

I will start with abandonment, since I have experienced this feeling many times in my own life. Do you experience the feelings of being alone? Have you either left someone or been left by someone? Early in life we may have experienced a parent or loved one not being able to be “present” with us. I know that contributed to my sense of being abandoned.

When I was studying pre and peri-natal birth psychology I learned from experience in the moment of birth, being abandoned by Spirit/God. The belief was that in taking a body I would have to leave Spirit. Now I have learned this is not true. As long as I continually feel this Presence and allow it to grow deeper in me……….I am held in love. I continually learn not to abandon myself in moments of challenge or conflict.

“Heal your fear of abandonment, set yourself and others free”.

The second fear is low self- worth. Have you ever had the experience of just not feeling good enough? Good enough for the job? Good enough parent? Good enough spouse? Worthy of the recognition and contributions we have made to each other, our families, our society or to humanity?

If you notice I used the small “s”. This is a key to the recognition of what my mind is doing. When the small “s” is used, for me it reminds me I am in my personality, or ego mind. I have learned to watch for this inner critic. It’s trying to protect me, and yet it fails consistently. Now I have learned the bigger “S”. Spirit, that being in me that is the Source of Love, Wisdom, Joy, Gratitude, Kindness, etc. I now have a tool to make the shift back to the Heart of who I AM.

The third fear is surrender and trust. Notice what happens in you physically, mentally and emotionally as you ponder these words. Many of us have learned it is not safe, here, there, in our bodies, in the world, etc. We say “we don’t trust them” or “I can’t surrender and have faith”. We worry we will not be provided for, or someone will take something from us.

Here is where my journey is now. This year I will be leaving the Midwest. As place I have lived my entire life, my whole identity is tied up here. Notice the belief? too funny ;-). I get to explore my own ability to surrender into the unknown with absolute certainty , ” I am okay, I will be provided for, where I am going will be the best thing that ever happened to me’!

I am jumping off into the land of surrender and trust!! A deep Faith in myself, the Universe having my back, and the adventure of it all.